We live in a world that expects answers. Within seconds we can find out almost anything. We can ask Google. We can ask AI. We can search for the quickest route, the best restaurant, or how to fix a leaking tap. We're becoming used to believing that every question has an answer. Then life asks us a different kind of question. Who am I now? Why doesn't the life I've built quite fit anymore? What happens next? What do I want from this next chapter? These aren't questions that ca

It's something I hear surprisingly often in the counselling room. People tell me that, on paper, life is good. They have a loving partner. Their children are doing well. They have a comfortable home, good friends and interests they enjoy. Then comes the "but". "But something doesn't feel right." "But I don't feel like myself." "But I can't shake the feeling that something's missing." What often follows is confusion. If life is good, why do they feel unsettled? Why can't they

Is it the same as happiness? Or are they completely different things? And does it even matter? Last week, while I was out and about, I saw a mother and her young daughter skipping down the road together. Properly skipping - carefree, unselfconscious, completely in the moment. I caught up with them and said, “That looks fun.” They smiled, agreed… and carried on skipping. And honestly, it stayed with me. There was something about it that felt so simple and yet so profound. It

I often think about life like a map. When we’re younger, we might imagine it as a fairly straight line from A to B — but over time, it becomes clear that it’s much more complicated than that. There are detours, dead ends, unexpected turns, and periods where people can feel completely lost or unsure of where they are. Counselling can feel similar. People often come when something has shifted, when there has been a loss, or when life no longer feels recognisable in the way it o

Midlife can be a turning point in so many ways — and not all of them are easy. Many women find themselves navigating a complex mix of menopause and changing health, shifting family roles, career pressures, empty nest feelings, or relationship changes. On paper, life may look “fine” — but internally it can feel overwhelming, disorienting, or unexpectedly flat. I hear this often in my work, with women saying things like, “I shouldn’t feel unhappy — I’ve got a partner, a home, a

Do you ever feel like you’re living in a story that isn’t really yours? If you had the chance, how would you rewrite the story of your life? What would the headline say? Would it feel scary, exciting, challenging—or all three? And most importantly, would it finally feel like your story, rather than one written from somebody else’s script? Midlife Reflections: Common Struggles As a counsellor who specialises in midlife, I hear recurring themes from clients about the struggles

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